(Listen to this homily
here).
I wish you could have all seen what I got to see Friday
evening and Saturday morning. I
traveled to Big Sandy Camp in McGregor to join in the Theology of the Body
retreat for teens. On Friday
evening seven of us priests heard confessions for two hours. We had 170 kids go to Confession on a
Friday evening. These same young
people went to Mass on Saturday and worshiped the Lord in Adoration Saturday
evening. While many of these kids
didn’t want to be there at first, after a couple of hours they were open and
willing to pray and learn.
And
do you know what they were learning about? Sexual morality!
On a weekend!
Now
if I asked you to explain, or write on paper, what our Catholic teaching is
regarding sexual morality—certainly if I asked the average person on the street
what our teaching is—I bet it would feature a list: “No, no, NO, NO,
NEVER!” I find this curious
because we would never describe anything else like this.
For
example, when my Ghanaian friends have asked about ice hockey, I don’t start
with, “No hitting people with sticks!
No carrying the puck! No
taking off your skates!” Their
response to such an explanation—“Ben, what are you talking about? I don’t even know what a puck is!” Rather, I would explain hockey by
saying, “Put this small and flat black thing—called a puck—in the net! This is the main goal of hockey!” (No
pun intended).
For
too long we have only understood the no’s
of sexual morality. The Theology
of the Body by St. John Paul II articulates the yes. St. Paul’s letter
to the Corinthians states that our bodies are the temple of the Holy
Spirit. This is a major yes in God’s plan! This series of talks by JPII examined Scripture
passages like this to discern what it means for us to have bodies, gender and
the capacity to love. It has
revolutionized how we approach one of the greatest gifts God has given us.
JPII
pointed to the beginning of our existence when God, out of love, created us in
his image and likeness. Unlike the
angels, He gave us a body. Unlike
the animals, He gave us a soul. He
also created male and female to be different. And can we all agree that God knew what He was doing? After all, He is God! He gave us gender, but this is not true
of every species—angels and amoeba are two examples. What does it mean for God to give us bodies that come in a
male or female form?
The
heart of the Theology of the Body is love. We have been created by love, from love and for love. Love is the one word that summarizes
our existence.
While
I hope to avail our parishes to deeper reflection on the Theology of the Body
in the future, I would like to apply some of its basic principles to my own
life.
As
a priest, I am a celibate man. For
starters, do you know how many people feel bad for me, think I am crazy or
think of me as weird? Please—don’t
ever feel sorry for me! Bishop
Sirba never put a gun to my head and yelled, “You WILL be a celibate for the
rest of your life!” I chose
celibacy freely, and while there are some no’s involved—a wife and children—there
is a far deeper yes.
I
have said yes first to God. Like
the prophet Samuel, I heard God calling me to consider the priesthood. After many years of prayer and
discernment, I followed His plan for me to be a priest. And as a priest I have experienced so
much joy, peace and contentment. I
mean, do you think I walk around telling myself, “NO, Ben, you cannot have
children! NO, Ben, you cannot get
married!” Indeed, it is not always
easy to be celibate, but I always try to focus on God’s incredible plan for my
life.
I
love what my rector in seminary once shared. He said, “Fellas, you need to know something right now. There is no vocation to girls. Some of you seminarians think it’s all
about girls, girls, girls! Get
this in your head, gentlemen, there is either zero or one!”
If
you are married, do you consistently live your life saying, “NO, I can’t be
with her, or her, or her, or her”?
Or do you continue to live your life with and for your spouse and kids?
I also said yes to serving you. For many years now I have prayed for all that I would
minister to, and that my life may be spent in service to God’s people. This is a humbling honor, and one which
the celibate lifestyle inspires.
Finally, JPII looks to the cross as
the ultimate example of what it means to have a body, to offer our bodies in
love and to sacrifice for the beloved.
Jesus Christ, in becoming a man, offers the primary witness to laying
down his life—his body—for his people.
And it is at the cross from which all the yeses of our moral teachings find their origin.