I
write this with a heavy heart, having in mind the scandals going on in the
Archdiocese of St. Paul/Minneapolis and the Diocese of Duluth. As a young priest, I would like to some
thoughts I have been having recently.
First—this
sucks. In the last year and a half
I have already gone through many difficult pastoral situations—counseling men
and women at death’s door, receiving a call to visit a family whose middle-age
daughter died unexpectedly, funeral for an infant, etc. This situation has caused me the
greatest pain and it is all overwhelming.
The
events in the Archdiocese, with the possibility of mishandling procedures, is
especially challenging. Fr. Peter
Laird, the former Vicar General for the Archdiocese, is a role model in my life
and he served as my formation director for a year and a half while I attended
St. Paul Seminary. He also taught
one of my favorite courses in my academic formation. Jennifer Haselberger, the former Chancellor for the
Archdiocese who made the story public, is a woman I also respect. In her visits to the St. Paul Seminary
to teach us Canonical and procedural issues I was inspired by her desire for
holiness, intelligence and straightforwardness. While I do not know all the facts, it seems that something
went amiss in the Archdiocese in the reporting of sexual misconduct and that
grieves me.
The
case in Duluth with Fr. Con Kelleher is sad as well. This is a beloved priest who spent over forty years serving
our Diocese and local church well.
He is a man revered and held in high esteem by the presbyterate. Again, I do not have all the facts, and
do not know exactly what happened, when it happened, where it happened or how
it happened. But from talking to
priests in our Diocese it seems Fr. Con’s “credible accusation”—if it occurred
at all, is much different. He was
a man of deep prayer who guided his parishioners into spiritual depth and
holiness. He prayed the breviary. He was in a priest support group. The signs as I read them point not to a
predator who preyed on the innocent but an alleged single act of less grave
wrongdoing.
The
Diocese of Duluth has “signed on” with the United States Conference of Catholic
Bishops’ 2002 Dallas Charter and thus adopted a zero-tolerance policy towards
clergy misdeeds. One credible
accusation leads to a dismissal from active ministry—no clerics, no being
addressed as “Father”, no administering the Sacraments publicly. This is an obvious step dealing with a
predator of the innocent, but causes concern for many priests. All misdeeds are treated the same—a
priest who sexually harasses someone (which is obviously horrible) is treated
the same as someone who repeatedly acted in the most egregious ways.
Personally,
I think the trauma of priest abuse and the way many situations were mishandled
in the past has forced us to adopt such a zero-tolerance policy. At the same time it is odd that a
priest, who has given his life to be a bridge to God’s mercy and forgiveness,
may not be afforded the same mercy or second chance in his job. I am no way saying a predator should
get a second chance or that a priest’s rights trump childrens’. What I do wonder is how to best respond
to a priest who may have crossed a boundary decades ago and has since lived an
exemplary life in the priesthood.
Our judicial system says, “Innocent until proven guilty.” When it comes to priests, though, it
seems like the reverse is true.
I
do not have all the answers here.
Responding to allegations is a complex situation in which the wishes of
the victim, rights of a priest priest, Canon Law and Dallas Charter must all be
taken into account. I do not envy
our Church leaders for the decisions they have to make, especially in
non-predatorial situations.
I
can say this—Bishop Paul Sirba is one of the holiest men I have ever met. I can affirm that if mistakes have been
made in the Diocese of Duluth regarding Fr. Kelleher’s case it was not due to a
coverup or impure motives. Bishop
is grieved by this whole thing as well and wants to do the right thing for the
glory of God.
And
I do know, that despite confusion and hurt we must pray. We must pray for innocent victims who
have been hurt by criminals. We
must pray for our Church leaders, that they may respond to allegations swiftly,
prudently and transparently. And I
would personally ask for your prayers for priests. In many ways we are sitting ducks and each of us is one
false accusation away from life taking a quick turn for the worse.
Finally,
I want to thank the men and women in our law enforcement and judicial system
who have worked with the Church to ensure our civil laws focus on the good of
society. If you or a loved one has
ever been hurt or abused by a priest or anyone else, please have the courage to
call them immediately. Christ is
our light, and it is my prayer that we bring even the darkest of human sins
into this light that he may radiate his love and mercy.
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